Advice to deter abusive behaviour

More people are using technology to stay connected and get things done. Technology can also be used as a pattern of abusive behaviour to hurt, control and monitor a partner or someone close to them. We’ve developed A Guide to Social Media Settings to explain the risks that people in this situation may encounter online and the safety settings…

29th July 20203rd August 2020

More people are using technology to stay connected and get things done. Technology can also be used as a pattern of abusive behaviour to hurt, control and monitor a partner or someone close to them. We’ve developed A Guide to Social Media Settings to explain the risks that people in this situation may encounter online and the safety settings that may help.

This Guide – available for download in PDF format – contains simple and practical tips on some of the most popular digital platforms.

TECHNOLOGY FACILITATED ABUSE

It can be hard to know whether things in your relationship related to technology are normal or abusive. If you are worried that you, a family member or a friend may be experiencing abuse, our advice may help you understand the red flags.

If you need advice with anything online – from online bullying and abuse to nudes being shared without your permission – Netsafe can help. Our service is free, confidential and available seven days a week

MORE INFORMATION

You can find additional information at:

Facebook – facebook.com/safety
Instagram – help.instagram/com
Snapchat – https://support.snapchat.com/en-GB
Twitter – support.twitter.com/groups/57-safety-security
Google – google.co.nz/safetycenter/

WHERE TO GET SUPPORT

Police – Call 111. If you or someone you know are at risk of imminent danger or a crime is being committed contact 111 immediately for help.
Shine – 0508 744 633. A free helpline to provide support for people who have experienced abuse by a partner or family member, people who use violence and want to make a change, and people who are worried about a friend or family member.
Women’s Refuge – 0800 REFUGE or 0800 733 843. A free support service to people who have been victims of domestic or family violence.
Netsafe – Text ‘Netsafe’ to 4282, call 0508 NETSAFE (0508 638 723), email [email protected] or report online. Netsafe can provide help and support with online challenges including online bullying, harassment and abuse.
Help (Auckland) – 09 623 1700 or [email protected]. A free 24 hour helpline to support victims of sexual assault.
Help (Wellington) – 04 801 6655 or contact online. A free 24 hour helpline to support victims of sexual assault.
Youthline – 0800 376 633, Free TXT 234 or email [email protected]. Youthline provides a free counselling service for young people.
Lifeline Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 TAUTOKO (0508 828 865). A free 24 hour suicide crisis helpline operated by trained counsellors.
Need to Talk – Free text or call 1737. A free 24 hour call or text help line operated by trained counsellors.
Rape Prevention Education – Contact online. Provides education and information to prevent sexual violence.
Family Violence – 0800 456 450 to find out about local services or how to help someone near you.
Elder Abuse Helpline – call 0800 32 668 65 (0800 EA NOT OK) – a 24-hour service answered by registered nurses who can connect to local elder abuse specialist providers.
Tu Wahine Trust – 09 838 8700 for kaupapa Māori counselling, therapy and support for survivors of sexual harm (mahi tukino) and violence within whānau.
Shakti New Zealand – 0800 742 584 for culturally competent support services for women, children and families of Asian, African and Middle Eastern origin who have experienced domestic violence.
Safe to Talk – sexual harm helpline. Call 0800 044 334, text 4334 or email [email protected].
Rape Crisis Centres – 0800 88 3300 for contact details of your local centre. Provides support for survivors of sexual abuse, their families, friends and whānau.
Male Survivors Aotearoa New Zealand – 0800 044 344. Offers one-to-one, peer and support groups for male survivors of sexual abuse and their significant others.
Hey Bro helpline – 0800 HeyBro (0800 439 276). 24/7 help for men who feel they’re going to harm a loved one or whānau member.
Korowai Tumanoko – Text or call 022 474 7044 for a kaupapa Māori service for those with concerning or harmful sexual behaviour.
Stop – support for concerning or harmful sexual behaviour.
Kidsline – 0800 54 37 54 (0800 kidsline) for young people up to 18 years of age (24-hour service).
Skylight – 0800 299 100 helping children, young people and their families and whānau through tough times of change, loss, trauma and grief.
Oranga Tamariki – 0508 325 459 (0508 FAMILY) or email [email protected] for concerns about children and young people.

CONTACT NETSAFE

If you’re concerned about the immediate safety of you or someone else, please call 111. If you want help or expert incident advice, you can contact us. Our service is free, non-judgemental and available seven days a week.